Child Abuse Reporting?
Question by Freeport77541: child abuse reporting?
I called in to provide information about a neighbor who is quite abusive to his child and has many domestic disputes almost on a daily basis last month. The local children and youth never investigated. I called in yesterday about the father was outside smoking what appeared to be illegal drugs with some of his friends. I called in again and a person from children and youth went to the house yesterday and spent about 5 minutes outside talking with just the mother and then drove directly over to my home and was very abusive with me and told me she was going to have the district attorney file charges against me for a false report. This is not right and i will never ever call in anything again.
i called the local office like many of you suggested but the supervisor was only a voice mail. I kept leaving messages and then was able to catch her late on friday but she was also very rude and had a “careless” attitude. What is wrong with people and where do i go from here ? I even called the tv news station but they were not interested in any information i have
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Answer by searching_please
This is why people don’t “get involved.” 🙁
Report that worker to his/her supervisor.
Answer by Liz J
try 2 get proof…record dem or somthin!!! cuz dis is serious
if i were u i wud try 2 get another witness n report it again
That is so wrong. I hate how they protect the abuser.
I think you need to call the district attorney yourself and even call the person in charge at the children services. You need to put the information out there. The children services if supposed to abide by privacy laws when it comes to situations like this. Go up the chain of command if you have to.The children are worth it Right?
It is sad, but that is pretty much all that seems to happen anymore. So many children are being left in homes where they are in serious danger. I would file a complaint report with the local police department if they are being loud enough to be a disturbance with their domestic disputes. And next time you believe drug use to be going on call in an anonymous tip to the PD.
What you did was a good thing. You saw what you thought was abusive behavior & you reported it – the majority of people today put on blinders when they could help a child who is living in an abusive environment.
I wish you had been my neighbor a long time ago.
You should make a journal of all of the times you witnessed abusive behavior – and include this mother’s abusive behavior toward you, and anyone else who witnessed these things along with you. If she has anly sense she probably won’t try to take any action against you because that would only call more attention to the fact that there was an investigation of child abuse at her home.
Thanks for sticking up for the kid next door.
I understand your frustration. It takes a babies death, or a childs broken bones to open the eyes of authority. Very sad…
Report the worker, and do not grow tied of doing right. You may be the only adult those little ones have that is watching out for them, so please don’t bow out now.
did you get the person’s name from children and youth when they came to your door. I would report the person for getting nasty with you. you had a right to report the people. people get reported for the wrong reasons many times. but in this case you had a right. call a lawyer and tell the lawyer what had happened to you and he will tell you what to do
dont feel ashamed ur protecting a child whos brainless parents arernt protecting them. nexttime take a picture of the incident, call the police if u see them smoking outside and then when the police come let them know about the reports. these kids are prolly in a worse situation than u realize. contact their school and see if the principal feels the kids are showing signs of abuse. this way if they agree they can handle it from there.
This is how abused children fall through the cracks. If the father is abusive towards the son then either he is to the mother as well or the mother is also abusive. Contact someone at child services who’s in charge and tell them what’s going on. If nothing’s still gets done then call the police next time you witness something going on. Try to also get proof via camera or video.
The thing you should have done is call the police every time there was a domestic dispute. And also the police when you saw any abuse going on. You can call anonymously. Then let the police sort everything out because its on record.
Please dont say that, you can save a child one day. First you should of called the police when you saw the father smoking drugs, that way the police would of filed a report and there would of been a record of this. Next time you see something like this have a camera ready, witness if possible and call the police.
I would have gotten her name, and filed a report against HER! By LAW, they are not supposed to do anything that reveals your identity. You could get her into trouble.
For future reference, call in anyway, and DON’T give your information. Call the national child abuse hotline, and tell them that you are NOT giving your identification information, and WHY you are not giving it.
A kid down the road from my mother’s house was not being taken care of, and child and family services kept playing the same games, and the neighbors stopped calling. This two year old boy walked away from his house, while his father was on the couch sleeping, and he fell through the ice on the lake and drowned.
Those neighbors have had a tough time, because they felt like they might have saved him if they had kept calling. Hopefully, the kids near you aren’t going to get that bad.
I have had CPS workers turn on me and act like I had some hidden agenda…screw them! It’s not the kids’ fault that some heinous wench got the job of investigating. I just keep trying to tell myself that the kids ARE worth the fight…keep talking to someone else, and protect your identity. As bad as it sounds, you NEED to filter the information you give so that when the CPS worker is defending the abuser, you are NOT giving the abuser enough information to figure out who you are, and be able to retaliate against you.
Remember, that lady has a boss, and her boss has a boss. Don’t complain to that social service agency, because they all cover each other. Instead, find out which government agency governs them. In NYS, they are governed by OCFS in Albany, and to make a complain, you call OCFS, NOT the social service agency.
From state of Illinois (every state that I know of has a similar law):”People who report alleged child abuse or neglect in good faith cannot be held liable for damages under criminal or civil law. In addition, their names are not given to the person they name as the abuser or to anyone else unless ordered by a hearing officer or judge. Members of the general public may make reports without giving their names. ”
If you pushed the issue, unless that woman can PROVE that you have a hidden agenda (like you’re turning in your ex-wife’s new bf for revenge), she might even lose her job, she can’t do stuff like that!
Take it up a level, and DON’T quit calling!!
Good luck!
Youre absolutely right here. Id call your local DAs office or even the state attorney generals office and report to them exactly what you just told us. Id even get hold of this person from social services and file a complaint with them. This person had no right contacting and saying what they did so you have every right to complain and hopefully you will to anyone who ll listen, Id even go to the newspaper or station and let them know too. Good luck
First REPORT theSOCIAL WORKER! She has an obligation to take this charge seriously, and even she has a boss. She does not have the right to harrass YOU! If you strongly suspect drigs and child abuse, go directly to the DA’s office and tell them what you have observed and exactly what the social worker did, then by law THEY will be obligated to investigate, I don’t think you are being a nosy neighbor just a concerned citizen and in this day and age one cannot just ignore the welfare of the children, or a be intimidated by a P poor social worker. Bless you for looking out for the kids and not turning a blind eye to it all
stay out of it
report the worker to
her supervisior and then call the police on the parents. Bully for you for standing up for the kids & giving them a voice. Keep up the good work
thats why most of the time in situations like this some one snaps and ends up dead just walking in ones house didnt do any good the child needed tobe heard and handled with care the spouse is probably so afraid she is to scared but with investigators would take the time and care maybe we can stop some of the abuse, and they wonder why people dont get involved or take them sreious anymore they dont care why should we.
if you truly believe the children are in some sort of danger go IN PERSON to the agency and speak to the supervisor face to face. kids cannot really help themselves so they need others to help them. so what if the mother wasn’t nice to you, sounds to me she isn’t being nice to her kids by having them in that environment.
It seems if you don’t get involved you could get in trouble for not reporting should something happen to a child, but accoring to what state you live in, there are mandates they follow which suck i live in one that says if you hit below the waist it’s not the authority’s problem
don’t tell me you live in Oregon. dont give up. I guess the local police might be an answer. i hope you get this settled for those kids.
You should get involved if there is real trouble.BUT Smok’n is not always grounds for abuse. You didn’t even mention the child you said he was outside…
You should have called THE POLICE not DHHS during one of these domestics disputes you were talking of. If they were so bad you should have called the police and then they would handle the matter and involved the dept of youth and child services
Make a detailed written account of exactly what you have observed and the threats received by you from the father. You are within your rights to report him to the police on the abusive threats alone. Ask about the complaints procedure to complain about the flawed process of whichever agency told the alleged abuser who had reported him. This cannot be procedure. Highlight that your concern is now for the children AND your own safety.